How to Turn Women On
Sexual escalation is a huge part of seduction and funnily enough it was the one part I struggled with the most when interacting with women. A limiting belief i had ingrained in my mind was that “Women don’t like sex as much as men”. Only after sexually escalating did I discovered this belief was far from the truth. As the matter of fact its quite the opposite, “most women enjoy sex more than men do!”
When I started to sexually escalate in conversations and physically touching women, my success started to rise and I started getting laid more. A BIG lesson I learnt was Women love talking about sex and have a very imaginative mind. So Imaginative that when you talk about sex or what you enjoy doing in the bedroom, she will more than likely imagine you doing those things to her. This turns the conversation into a more sexual undertone and is what seduction is all about.
A combination of talking about sex and physically escalating can do wonders when it comes to interacting with girls.
Social Stigma Comforting Her
It is no secret women have a social stigma when it comes to sex and being sexually open. The reason for this is the social conditioning society has put on women. A woman faces social ridicule for sleeping with too many male partners and can be labelled a slut. Whats interesting about this is that the term “slut” was actually invented by women.
Have you ever heard of women complaining about guys getting laid is something looked up to but women getting laid is frowned upon, that is because of social conditioning.
Women are sexual creatures just like men however society puts pressure on women to suppress that sexual side out of fear of being judged. In order to unleash that sexual side of her you have to make her comfortable enough with you. If you are comfortable talking about sex she will be comfortable with you about those things so long as she doesnt feel as though she will be judged by you then she will open up to you.
At the end of the day, sex is a natural and healthy desire to have and it is nothing to be ashamed of. The fact that both men and women suppress that side of themselves is actually saddening and is also the reason why people struggle so much when it comes to dating.
Letting a girl know that you won’t judge her or think any less of her for opening up to you will allow her to express herself more freely about the topic.
“I actually respect women more when they are open about enjoying sex, it shows that they are confident enough with themselves to not care about what others think”
Ive said this to women a lot, It demonstrates that I dont care that she enjoys sex and that I wont judge her because of it. This allows women to feel comfortable talking to me about it.
How to Sexually Escalate With Women
Verbal Escalation relies on social calibration and your ability to transition conversations into a sexual direction; this could be anything from flirty statements, comments or even witty sexual remarks.
It’s important that you transition the conversation in a calibrated way, when verbally escalating.
Girl: I am a nurse
Guy: Wow nurses are hot, I’ve never slept with a nurse
Girl: I am a school teacher
Guy: I can picture you in a sexy teachers outfit, I bet your students give you a hell of a lot of apples
If you’re not a touchy person, getting into the habit of touching people is hard, I was never a touchy person and the thought of touching a girls arm when talking to her or putting my hand on a girls back or waist made me a little un easy.
I personally I was worried of coming off creepy and chances are that my first couple of times I went about touching women (I probably did creep out girls at first). However the more comfortable you become at touching the more normal it becomes. I’ve only ever had one girl say to me “don’t touch me” and I’ve spoken to thousands of women.
I mention calibration a lot above, calibration is mainly about getting used to doing things comfortably. It mainly relies on experience. The more you verbally escalate or physically escalate, the more comfortable you will become at it.
I creeped out a lot of women at the beginning however It was a good price to pay in the long run, Now I dont have fears of touching women nor talking about sex and I am now calibrated when it comes to Verbal and Physical escalation.
Calibration comes with experience and develops naturally, the only conscious way to work on calibration on a specific area is to actively do it more and more.
Fear of Sexually Escalating
Just like anything else in life that you are not comfortable doing, there will always be a fear that you will have to overcome. Overcoming the fear of sexualising an interaction with a girl can be tricky but after you become comfortable doing it, you will allow yourself to enjoy more success with women.
The first time will always be the hardest.
Tips To Start Sexually Escalating
1. Using words like Mischeif, Fun, Cheeky, Sexy and trouble are good words to use when sexually escalating
“You look like your out for trouble tonight” or “You’ve got a cheeky look about you, you look like you’d be a bad influence on me”
2. Touching a girl on her arm is a great way to start physically escalating (Never touch the shoulder)
3. Verbally Escalating is much easier to do if you do it playfully
“I like your dress, they go well with your boobs”
4. Grabbing a girls hands to check out her ring is a great excuse to break the touch barrier and its not as lame as palm reading.
5. If a girl touches you, be sure to physically escalate